Or Something Better

When Jack Canfield, author of The Success Principles, teaches us how to write an affirmation, he’s specific. It needs to be in the present tense, positive, brief + several other attributes, and ending with the phrase “or something better.” The implication is that our dreams may be less grand than what the Universe has in mind for us.

Last weekend I co-led An Invitation to Get Real with my Leadership partner Brad Isaacs. I had reserved the Memorial Room at the Fairfield Library for the event on Saturday. Due to smaller than anticipated enrollment, we didn’t need as large (or expensive) a space. I let go of the reservation, then started to seek a new room for our group.

I already had a beautiful new space for the Sunday group, but it turned out to not be available for Saturday. I allowed myself a moment of panic, “Oh, no! I’ll NEVER find a space. This is a disaster. I’m a failure.” That lasted 30 seconds. Then I moved into action, which is always the secret weapon. I phoned the library to see if any other room existed or if they might negotiate. I left a voicemail. Then, I quickly scanned my brain for people in the area who might point me in another direction.

I called a former client and colleague who lives less than 1/2 mile from that library. She knows the town well. Might she recommend a location for me? Visit my blog to learn about my “or something better” experience.

Allowing these miracles into my life didn’t happen overnight. I’ve been practicing meditation, prayer, affirmations, fellowship meetings, etc. which have opened my eyes to seeing all the miracles that occur. Please share your own “or something better” stories.

Quality of the Ride

Since I believe in walking my talk, I have my own coach and two cherished sessions with her a month. On our last call discernment was the topic that we spent most of our time on. I’m in the enviable position of having many opportunities coming my way, several of which I created. But there have been some unexpected surprises arriving as well that look attractive. My work is to decide where to put my energy and focus.

In my blog I describe one of my options and why I could feel my heart and my gut saying, “Uh-oh!” When I discussed it with my coach, she helped me remember how it feels when I’m involved with alliances where my heart sings–like with Brad Isaacs this past weekend delivering our Get Real program. Or with my promising collaboration with Eileen Fisher and my Remarkable Women’s Network. I understand the relationship. I know, admire and respect the individuals. It feels right.

As Michele said, “You’re driving around in a Jaguar with these collaborators, and someone is offering you a free Ford. Do you want that?”

The temptation is there, but I have to stay clear on my chosen destinations, my traveling companions and the quality of the ride. While it was still challenging for me to reject the offer, having that analogy made it crystal clear and slightly easier. I said “no” and “phew”.

Regards,