She emailed me between the holidays to reconnect and to mention an essay she’d written. It seems Missy has been overexposed to a particular message that I feel blessed NOT to have been aware of.
Of course, it’s her decision NOT to participate in furthering that particular cause that inspires me to share her essay in this first blog post of the year. (A part of me hesitates to even make mention of this sentiment for fear of giving it any attention, but I trust my readers can see past that and embrace the heart of Missy’s message.)
NO MORE FML in 2011
I know the feeling of desperation, suffocation, isolation. I also know the feeling of satisfaction, contentment, unconditional love, joy and hope.
I have felt the weight of the world on my shoulders and then having it lifted off.
Living a perfect life is not possible but we can control our path. In fact, we make or break each day we live by our actions and reactions to whatever happens along the way.
The decisions are ours — sink or swim. With a new year approaching, I am going to swim faster and harder, making it through no matter how high or rough the waves.
I am not afraid of hard work. What I am afraid of is not getting the most out of life and at the same time understanding that it isn’t just about me. I want my daughter to know her mother loved her and she tried her hardest to be there for her every step of the way.
I want her to see, by my actions, that living a successful life also involves helping others while expecting nothing in return.
I will survive and not complain because I know there are children and adults all over the world fighting for their lives due to terminal illness or life circumstances.
In 2011, I will delete each and every person who writes the words FML (F**k My Life) on their Facebook or Twitter pages. I want to surround myself with people who think positively and are willing to make the changes that need to be made without quitting – even when life gets really hard.
We all hold the key to our own happiness. I fully expect to make mistakes and stumble along the way. At the end of each day I want to know that I did my best. Despite setback, I will remain sharply focused on my dreams. I will survive.
Write down your hopes and dreams for 2011 and post them where you can see them daily. Start out each day fully expecting to have a positive and fulfilling day and don’t beat yourself up when the going gets tough.
I have two tattoos that serve as guiding principles: “I will choose the outcome” and “I will do whatever it takes.” I live by these and will continue to hold my head high and work through the difficulties that come my way.
May your 2011 be filled with new beginnings and a jumping off point to turn things around in order to be the best you can be.