I gave my first public talk last night about my trip around the world to a joint audience of Living All the Way and Ladies Who Launch members and guests. The response was thrilling, and the feedback extremely helpful.
An experience I shared that was particularly memorable involved my cab driver, Sajith, in India. I mentioned how challenging it was to select a driver from the hordes soliciting business and how we had agreed on a price of $15US for 4 hours–car and driver. When my talk ended last night, Aliza offered me a ride to the train station. I mentioned that I had pre-arranged a car service back to the city. “Four hours for $15?” she quickly responded. Hah! If only…
The most meaningful response I got referred to a particular portion of my experience. I mentioned that the Semester at Sea voyage changed radically for me halfway through. On March 16 (I got on the ship February 1) I had the opportunity to address my shipmates in Union, the auditorium onboard, and share the entrepreneurial lessons I’ve written about in Soul Proprietor. As a result of this exposure, students, faculty and others on the ship began approaching me to have breakfast, lunch or dinner with them so we could get to know each other better.
Up until then, I’d approach various people in the dining rooms trying to find the friendships I was hoping to establish. Not much developed from that strategy. What I learned was that the people who were attracted to my stories and life and who picked me, made better friends and relationships than the people I tended to pick.
It seems that I’m better at being picked than picking. Which are you?