Growing up, someone who ‘needed help’ was looked at sideways. Going to a ‘shrink’ was ridiculed as even the expression implies. This was all before the days of coaches, support groups, accountability partners, etc.
Today, asking for help is a sign of strength. Harvey McKay told an audience of thousands, back in my NSA* days, that he worked with no fewer than 54 coaches. He had a speech coach, a writing coach, a business coach, and on and on. He exhibited no shame, was (and still is) a hugely successful businessman, author and speaker. And he announced, from the platform, that he NEEDED help.
Sadly, most professionals don’t share that there are legions behind them in support positions. Whether it’s pride, shame or deceit, many folks would prefer that the public think that they are the ONE who can pull it off solo.
I’d like to speak on behalf of those who openly admit that asking for help is a sign of strength. And letting your audience know that you get it is a thing of beauty, not shame. (How big is our President’s Cabinet? And our country was founded on that structure.)
Personally, I just signed up with a woman I am trusting to help me work on my own fear of success. Fortunately, she started our session by declaring that this issue is something experienced almost exclusively by high performers. As I continue to help others work through their resistances, I need to spend time in my own backyard dealing with mine. I’m a firm believer in not being able to take anyone further than you’re comfortable going yourself. I cannot limit my own imagination and expect others to expand theirs.
I am launching a new program next month for women like me. It will offer maximum support and accountability in an inspiring, safe and rigorous space. Click here to learn more. Hope to see you in March.
*National Speakers Association