My newest mastermind group started in midtown yesterday, and I found myself with six of the most dynamic, creative and inspiring women I know. While confidentiality is key to the success of the group, I can tell you that they all nodded in hearty agreement when I shared my thesis for success:

You need to be around people who aren’t pretending that everything is wonderful.

Everyone has issues. And even though this is a business group, it’s important to NOT disregard the emotional component of our lives. Whether it’s relationships, finances, health or feelings of invisibility, bringing these into the light of day helps to diffuse them so you can focus on the work at hand.

Often, these intimate groups are the only place some businesswomen have to even mention what’s flickering in the background.

Once aired and acknowledged, the sparks fly. Covered up, buried, or disregarded, issues fester, grow and metastasize.

Here’s to saying what’s true for you and moving forward. The saying goes, “you’re only as sick as your secrets” whether it’s personally or professionally. Let ’em rip and carry on.

The goals set yesterday are inspiring and growth-producing. My favorite response to a suggested goal is, “Really?!” followed by a huge grin and a look of joy. Really!